It’s been a year, and me (39M) and my wife (36F) have been intimate twice, separated by nearly six months apart. I know our relationship has had issues, with financial stress and financial infidelity (5+ years ago, I withheld how bad our cash flow was, using debt to maintain our lifestyle). She has been stressed at her job of 3 years, and now she’s gotten a job that strictly is 8:30-5:30, with no carryover into her personal life. She can’t let go of the pain I caused her. She feels she hasn’t had time to do so since she started working 5 years ago to help gain a foothold on finances. This carries over to the bedroom. She has always had a lower libido, but it’s straight turned off. I don’t know how someone in a relationship can possibly handle that long (6+ months) without masturbation or intercourse. At this point, it’s a huge pain point for us. She knows I desperately want to connect physically, but it feels like the path to her healing is a chicken or the egg dynamic. However, sex is unilaterally off if I’m trying to initiate. Since I’m batting well below the Mendoza line, I told her I’ve had enough and I’m not pursuing her in bed going forward. The straw was my birthday. I spent the entire day trying to take her on a date and be romantic…not even a kiss or hug. I just feel like I’m dying inside. I’m literally giving it six months or I’m filing for divorce. That will be her birthday present if we can’t find common ground. I would rather live in a shack, mired in debt and alone, seeing our four kids every now and then, then be this fucking miserable every night. How the fuck do people cope with this?

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The Creator Of 'Magic: The Gathering' Knows Exactly Where It All Went Wrong
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    Sea_Foam_Green
    2mo ago 100%

    The game was doomed to be a speculator market thanks to the Reserved List.

    The game rose during the sports card boom, and was the lead-in to sports card bro boom during the pandemic.

    Once finance sites popped up, everyone became an investor.

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  • Bipolar Community Weekly Checkin August 11-18th - How are you doing?
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    Sea_Foam_Green
    2mo ago 100%

    Ehh, better than last week.

    Final appt coming up in two weeks with my therapist of 3ish years. Still nervous about potential waiting lists.

    Got soft diagnosed with BPD today. Explains a lot of my ups and downs on a short term basis.

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  • What Is The Best Persona Game? Persona Games, Ranked
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    Sea_Foam_Green
    2mo ago 100%

    I’ll always be partial to 3.

    I played P:Revelations a few years before playing P3, and loved the darkness of it, but P3 gave the series an aesthetic coat of paint.

    I burnt myself out playing over 300 hours on P3:FES, so I haven’t really played much of P4.

    Persona 5, was amazing in its own way, dripping with absolute style and substance.

    Haven’t been able to legally play P2:IS or P2:EP, so I can’t really evaluate them.

    P3 > P5 > P4 > P2* > P1

    *Persona Revelations had moments, but was dogshit compared to the rest. I’ll wager $ P2 is better.

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  • Bipolar Weekly Checkin Aug 4-10th - How Are You Doing?
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    Sea_Foam_Green
    2mo ago 100%

    Our next session (next week), she will provide info and referrals to other providers.

    I’m nervous that I’ll have to go on a wait list again. Took me three months to get back on her schedule when I changed insurances.

    She’s been my therapist for nearly three years.

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  • Bipolar Weekly Checkin Aug 4-10th - How Are You Doing?
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    Sea_Foam_Green
    2mo ago 100%

    Not great.

    I’m losing my therapist in two weeks, as she’s leaving my provider.

    I don’t have a lot going well on my end. Wife and I had a massive argument that reset any progress we’ve made in the last 6-12 months.

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  • Some subreddits could be paywalled, hints Reddit CEO
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    Sea_Foam_Green
    2mo ago 100%

    And that’s one of the reasons that brought me here.

    Maybe it was the permanent banning for creating another account trying to talk to a mod that had banned me in a way I thought was harsh, and muted me before I could even speak.

    Regardless, Reddit is starting to remind me of when Digg took a massive shit like 15 years ago. And saying that makes me feel old.

    As long as I’m not dealing with AI chatbots spamming these communities, I think I’ll like it here.

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