i frequented r/menslib and it was actually fairly leftist and clear about the ways that traditional concepts of patriarchy often disadvantages men and encourages inclusivity and talking about mental health. it certainly takes more intentionality, but i think they do it pretty well.

thanks for this! do you have any favorite books you’ve read regarding the topic you’d recommend? and side note: any advice on being a stay at home dad? my partner is going to be a SAHD soon and i’m always looking out for resources.

yup exactly!! there seem to be a lot of ways that this information is being oversimplified in misleading ways, especially given how opaque and complicated the college admissions systems already seems in its acceptance factors.

my other thought about all this is that all these talks about class- or race-conscious admissions at the top tier schools are a bit of a red herring… realistically the impact of these policies from a social mobility perspective is going to be much bigger from mid tier/more publicly accessible schools (eg: state schools).

funnily enough, i'm not really sure that based on this medicore whites can necessarily rest easier. the university of california system stopped affirmative action policies in the 90s but since then, the white population has actually made losses rather than gains in being admitted to the university of california. for example, for ucla, it looks like the percentage of whites admitted has never gone back to 1995 (during affirmative action) levels. i think the individual implementation of these post-affirmative action policies by the educational establishments seems to be the real make or break here.

i wonder what kind of tangible effect this will have overall, given how opaque and discretionary college admissions standards are in the first place. if an institution wanted to, couldn’t class-conscious policies geared towards underrepresented geographies and first generation college students achieve a similar outcome while skirting the ruling on race explicitly?

going out for brunch and nails with a friend tomorrow so doing various errands today before my partner and i veg out on the couch to some edibles (for him, i’m not allowed rn bc of health stuff unfortunately) and a movie. should be nice!

thank you so much!! haha it’s based on a song… my last night in LA was much more tame, just museums and korean food.

it's crunchy, and it's so much more convenient than peeling it off every time...

as an omnivore dating a vegetarian who doesn't eat meat for ethical reasons i am so, so excited!!!!

fish heads... they're just so much cheaper than the rest of the fish and delicious in the air fryer. also i'll eat the tails on shrimp.

if you take a step back: do you... like what you're studying or working on? i'm not saying that you have to love it, but if you're having a hard time self-motivating on a particular subject, you might just not like it very much. i personally always figured programming was something i'd like and be good at given my specific spicy brain but turns out it wasn't, so i pivoted into programming adjacent spaces (like the other poster mentioned) instead. i think i dropped out of like two different boot camps before i figured that... well, i just didn't like it, it it didn't motivate me, and it wasn't for me.

often, these programming-adjacent spaces (eg: cybersecurity, system administration, integration management, salesforce admin) have problem solving with more fixed parameters than programming - like looking at a word problem instead of a blank page - and could work better for you.

style savvy announcement or i riot

salami chips?? i've never even considered this concept, fascinating... also i have a super bizarre pregnancy appetite going on right now so if it's not a triple processed carbohydrate i'm considering it a huge health win haha

my favorite thing is places that have a 20% gratuity automatically added to every bill to compensate employees fairly (i am begrudgingly accepting of this even though it should really just be on the menu price) but then have an extra line for tip on top of that. and sometimes that extra tip line calculates a tip for you based off of the already added 20% gratuity. insane.

that sounds so delicious and fresh!! thanks for the recipe : )

i always have cans of chickpeas on hand, can't believe i haven't made these before!!

happy first comment and thanks for the idea!! i love wings and definitely need to eat more carrots so def gonna give this a try.

i live in a sleepy little suburb and it is a truly lovely place to start a family. the local library is well funded (the building is one of the largest libraries in the state!), the public schools are good, there are lots of lovely parks and playgrounds, and every time i leave the house there are people taking pleasant strolls or walking their dogs.

korean egg rice: crack an egg into a bowl of rice and mix with sesame oil and soy sauce, microwave for 2 min, sprinkle some furikake on top if you’ve got it and you’ve got a solid comfort food in like 5 mins tops

well… i’m here and i have a 401k i check twice a week and a honda civic, so now?